Is It That You Should Or That You Want To?

"I should"

​Does that ever come out of your mouth?

​I should post...

I should write my newsletter like this...
I should work after the kids go to bed...
I should want to stay at home with my kids...
I should create my offer like this...
I should be trying to climb the corporate ladder...

​Does this resonate?

​Where does the should come from?

​Does it come from the voice inside that's like, okay let's do this and finish it so we can move ourselves along?

​Or does it come from what we feel we should be doing because it's what we see others doing?

​Woof.

​For me, it's sometimes both. And to be really honest I may or may not actually take the time to decipher where it's coming from. It's go go go and I look up and think, wait? WTF! Where am I?

​I'm working with an energy and alignment coach right now and this is my current focus. But, as I work on it I notice this conversation coming up in coaching sessions and laid-back coffee meetings.

​There is some curiosity around it. A "What if I didn't follow the should, but followed the this lights me up.".

​And I definitely don't feel like this is easy work. For me, it's a lot of unlearning, Looking at what success means for me right now in this season.

​Do I want all that money in the bank? Oh yeah. But, do I want to soak up time with Gracie? Oh yeah.

​There are so many "I shoulds" that come with both of those. It's getting curious about each one that comes up.

​So, no actual business tips per se but just a lot of reflecting. Which is just as important as a posting schedule or a nurtureing sequence. But, often not actually done.

​Are you having and I shoulds? If not, I commend you on running on what's true to you! If you do, please take some time to get curious and see what they are and where they're coming from.

Does that mean online networking is less valuable? Not at all.

​I do feel there is something really magical about in-person networking because you're fully connecting with someone.

You're more likely to get a feel of their character and more likely to actually remember them.

But, creating relationships online led me to Allison. I started following her after she was on a podcast, met her at a conference, had her speak in our community, and bam - now I'm in her membership. There are also real conversations that happen on IG and in email.

So, I'm definitely not saying online ones are not magical!

​It's all networking. Don't let the word create the images of formal attire, slicked-back hair, and business card shuffling!

Think of it as creating relationships. Think of it as meeting new friends. Think of it as mingling.

Whatever it is…just do it so you can see the value!

My question to you...have you built some amazing relationships from networking opportunities?